If there is one thing in the world that is totally ridiculous, it’s hypocrisy.

Below you will see some pretty birthday cards:

They all cost 10 pence each (US friends, that’s about 4 cents). All you UK residents will recognise these pleasant items as coming from the popular greeting card chain by the name of The Card Factory. In my town there are 3 of these shops – 2 of which are in the town centre. There are many more scattered around neighbouring towns and villages.

The Card Factory regularly rotate their 10p designs and right in the middle of the front entrance they are displayed with a large sign saying:

10 for £1

So when the yearly subject arises of why a member of my family refuses to purchase a birthday card for my young daughter, I am always baffled by the resultant defensiveness. This year it was:

“I begrudge buying cards because they are a total waste of money and after five days they just end up in the bin. If you have a problem with this, phone me. You’re the only one who purges by text!”

My angst lies in 6 hypocritical facts:

  1. This person happily receives birthday cards from the rest of the family every year and has never asked for this to stop. And family don’t get the 10p ones – M&S or Clintons usually. Yet not a word of woe has ever been heard from the lips of this card-hating receiver.
  2. As already mentioned, the greeting cards in our town cost as little as 10p and there’s loads to choose from, so it’s not breaking the bank to buy one.
  3. Chocolate in this person’s hands lasts less than 5 days and so do certain flowers, but this meanie readily receives both without a complaint. So if confectionary is in the gut within the hour and blooms have wilted long before paper, why has there never been any resistance to accepting these gift items?
  4. We are talking about making a young child feel valued on their special day – one who keeps all her cards and sometimes mounts them onto her bedroom wall. It’s August and 4 Christmas cards are still displayed up on her bookcase.
  5. Meanie’s offspring always receive birthday cards from the rest of the family. Not once has anybody been advised to ‘save our money’.
  6. But here’s the clincher. I am expected by Meanie to take myself and my daughter and my husband to an event that involves people from Meanie’s side of the family. We are expected to go without question. Yet….

*This is going to cost us £28.50

*This isn’t going to last 5 days like Meanie’s token card display. This event shall last just over one hour.

But if we don’t go, we will be considered the baddies. Or labeled revengeful. But boycotting this ‘much less than 5 days’ event would not be done out of revenge. It would be done in the name of:

not encouraging hypocrisy.

We are happy to fork out almost £30 for 60 minutes of distraction. Because other people are important to us. It’s about being interested in others. It’s about blessing youngsters by respecting their wishes even if it seems silly to you. 

When adults squabble and remain  determined to dig their heels in, who gets hurt in the process?

The innocent children. So yes, we are going to attend this pricey event because we know what it’s like for a child to feel dishonoured.

Of course in the process of all this babbling, it is us who are in the wrong because hypocrites are always right, aren’t they?

So dear friends, I shall now be hotly accused of:

Purging by blog.