A Terrible Habit

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I was talking to my dear friend Debbie about bad habits. She recently posted an article naming her pet hates, some of which actually made me laugh.

But it’s not funny when you’re on the receiving end, especially if you have to witness mine.

I hate this habit and I often ask people to not condone it when I do it. I even go as far as telling them to be rude to me if they witness me doing it. Because I hate it. I’m ashamed of it.  And what’s more, I detest it when others do the same thing to me.

My husband knows that, with God’s help, I’m working on it because I am determined to conquer it. And of course, poor Anwar is the biggest victim.

Each time I meet up with someone, especially if they are of a melancholy temperament, a teacher, slow of speech or shy, I make a mental note not to do it. Then it happens. I usually realise immediately, and apologise.

I find it’s best to admit our faults so people don’t feel as under valued as our bad habit is trying to do. It also gives them chance to help the offender improve.

Many people have been gracious to me in this struggle and have even confessed that they do it themselves.

Aw… come on! Do tell! Stop nattering and just say what it is!

Well this blog is a clue. I made a pact to make my blogs shorter. However, there is usually so much to say isn’t there? Is there?

So here it is: my worst habit of all time is….

over-talking people.

But yesterday I found something that is going to help me a great deal, which I will quote at the end.

I always say:
“(Interrupt,) blah, blah, blah, blah, oops sorry, I’m over-talking you. You were speaking – sorry, carry on.”
Then I make a deliberate effort to listen intently without thinking of what I am going to say next.

How can we be listening to the speaker if we are speaking at the same time? It’s impossible and therefore very disrespectful and rude.

The helpful thing I found was a sentence from a *‘Word For Today’ magazine. The title is, ‘Listen More, Say Less’
I states that a man called Larry King once said, ” I remind myself every morning that nothing I say this day will teach me anything. So if I’m going to learn, I must do it by listening.”

That’s what I’m going to do.

∼  “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” (Philippians 4:13) ∼

*Word For Today
Issue: August – October 2014 – (September 18th)
Written by Bob Gass,  fromUCB Radio

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9 thoughts on “A Terrible Habit

  1. I read somewhere yesterday a quote that went something like, “Do not listen to respond, but listen to understand.” You may well over-talk, Susan, but I still do think you do listen to understand, but I enjoyed the post, kept me waiting on tender hooks 😉

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  2. Well, now I know! Dear sweet Sharon, does not every woman struggle with the same thing? I too have done that in certain seasons of my life; stopped myself, apologized and determined to shut my mouth and be attentive to what the person in front of me was saying! The problem is my husband does this too (he is worse, truthfully) and he does not care! lol. You are not alone, friend. xo This was a fun article. Thanks for the reminder to us all to listen more and say less. Seriously ……. I think blogging was invented just for us!! For those of us who don’t get listened to otherwise! lol. Love you lots, words and all, Debbie.

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  3. I have to admit, long blog posts make me think twice about reading them. Wordy people make me want to finish their sentences. Which leads to one of my many shortcomings, impatience. God is working on that in my life, He blessed me with a daughter who talks FOREVER! 😉

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