…you’re just doing what God told you to do – to wait on him and he will bring good things your way.

Ignore those accusing, condemning, mocking arrows of contempt that fly your way. Listening to God is all that matters and if that means you’re still single at 40, know that he hasn’t forgotten you on the shelf. That shelf can hold you up and there’s not an ounce of dry rot or woodworm to be seen anywhere.

We all have our desired plans for our lives and for many women that includes bearing children. This is where the devil creeps in the most:

“Ooh, you’ll be the oldest mum in the playground!”

“You’ll be too exhausted to roll about with them on the floor!”
“Your pregnancy will be harder.”

“People will think you’re the grandmother.”

“Oh, you might end up with a Downs Syndrome baby that you’ll have to look after forever.”
“Your  stretch marks won’t go because you’re getting wrinkles already.”

Oh shut up!

Jeremiah 29:11 : “For I know the plans I have for you,” says the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you; plans to give you a hope and a future.”

I’m not one of these Christians who, when things finally go my way, I pretend that I was perfectly fine during the waiting process.”
Although I never sat back and bemoaned my singleness, and I got on with life, jet-setting all over, I never really accepted the fact that I had to wait until 34 to find the love of my life. Looking back I can joyfully say that good things certainly do come the those that wait, but I wasn’t one of the patient ones. No, it’s not easy, but it is worth the wait.

One of the most foolish, untrue sayings I’ve heard people say is, “Better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all.” What a load of rubbish! Protecting your heart, reputation, your purity and your soul from the wrong ties, is immeasurably better than nursing a ticker full of memories turned sour and jealousies when the inevitable other girl comes into the life of the one you thought and hoped would be yours.


You Told Me

You told me,
“Don’t waste your dreams,
Guessing what is my plan.
Don’t waste your time thinking,
‘Where is my man?’
Too many people
Simply cannot wait,
Now they’re stuck
In a marriage they hate.”

You told me,
“Beware of the devil,
For he likes to shock,
Saying you haven’t much time,
On your body clock.
But I made the mountain
That I told you to climb.
I’m the creator of your body,
And I control the time.”

You told me,
“Don’t worry about the years,
For I made the seasons.
Well, you’re not married yet,
Stop looking for reasons.
You won’t be forgotten,
I’ve heard your request.
Remember I said,
That my will is best.”

You told me,
“Ignore the contempt,
And everything they say.
As you’re getting older,
They suggest that you’re gay.
Or they say it’s your fault,
As you had so much ‘choice’.
Despite the different comments,
It’s all the devil’s voice.”

You told me,
It was right to obey,
Even if it means,
I’m still single today.
I walk through the park,
A young couple are kissing.
Satan comes up and whispers,
“Just look what you’re missing!”

But if you decide,
To make it your goal,
To give yourself away
To the wrong soul,
When he ends up with another,
You’ll feel jealous and used,
And your heart will end up,
Broken and bruised.

You told me,
“Continue down the road,
With Jesus by your side.
There’s nothing to be ashamed of,
And there’s no need to hide.
Whatever lies ahead,
There will be the day,
I was glad I decided,
To listen and obey.”