mich dressHere comes the bride
It was my kid sister’s wedding day. With 11 years between us, I woke up excited and emotional as it seemed like only yesterday that I was helping to change her nappies.

Anxious wait
At the church, I couldn’t relax. I paced the floor up and down eager to hear someone shout “She’s here!”

Camera ready
When the inevitable arrival was upon us, I dashed outside with my camera, ready to take some super snapshots that I would treasure for years to come. The car pulled up and I could see my dad looking as proud as ever to be giving away his youngest girl and on top of that, knowing he looked dapper in his tartan waistcoat. As Michelle –  my sister – emerged from the car, I moved forward so I was right in front of her. This was going to be a great close-up.

Rude man
“Er, excuse me lady…can you move back a bit please?”

Some intrusive guest was asking me to step aside so that HE could get a better photo than me! How rude!

Who does he think he is barging past like that? And to have the cheek to ask me to move too! I was not happy. Couldn’t he see we looked alike? Surely a sister could have the privilege that he was so curtly trying to deny me of. I gave him a glare and tried to sound polite, although I was very annoyed. “Well, I’m her sister.” I said, trying not to look too smug.

I want to die

“Yea, ok love, but I’m the photographer. The wedding photographer.”

Shock. Shame. Acute embarrassment. It’s times like this that I remember the advantage we black folk have over our white compatriots. My face went crimson, but nobody knew.

God Bit

I think humility is the key here. I must be careful not to think of myself more important than I actually am. Jesus explained this very well:

“When someone invites you to a wedding feast, do not take the place of honour, for a person more distinguished than you may have been invited. If so, the host who invited both of you will come and say to you, ‘Give this person your seat.’ Then, humiliated, you will have to take the least important place. But when you are invited, take the lowest place, so that when your host comes, he will say to you, ‘Friend, move up to a better place.’ Then you will be honoured in the presence of all the other guests. For all those who exalt themselves will be humbled, and those who humble themselves will be exalted. (Luke 14:8-11)

Not quite the ‘sitting in the wrong chair’ scenario, but it gets the point across to me all the same.

“For all those who exalt themselves will be humbled…”